Meh

[Chickenman]

Okay...there's this girl I've liked for...almost two years now (damn I'm pathetic) I never really asked her out until only recently. At first, I wasn't sure if I was allowed to do any dating yet, and was too embarrassed to ask the parental units. When I got the ok, I'd either chicken out, or she'd have a boyfriend. So this February I was thinking of asking her out on Valentine's Day, but the problem with that was, that if by some miracle she did say yes, she'd be gone the next week, on a trip to Italy. So I waited until a week after she returned, and then asked her if she might want to see a movie that weekend. She replied that normally she would, but she was really busy at the time (the school play, dance, after school chorus, etc.) So at first I thought she was telling the truth, that yes, she would go out with if it wern't for the after school activities. Then after that I began to start thinking that maybe she had come up with a convenient excuse so she could say no, but not make me feel bad. Now, I just have no clue. The play's over and everything, so I'm wondering if maybe I should ask her out again. Thing is I've come to 3 possible conclusions about her excuse:

a) it was just a convenient excuse so she could say no and not make me feel bad

b) She didn't realize I was asking her out when I asked her to a movie. Maybe she thought I just wanted to hang out (doubtful)

c) she really probably would go out with me, especially now that the play is over (really doubtful)

I think I'm going to talk to her best friend to get a better idea of what I should do. One of the reasons I'm hesistant about asking her out again, is I don't want it to seem like this:

John: Would you maybe want to go out with me?
Jenn: Not right now.
John: ...
Jenn: ...
John: How about now?

What do you think I should do? Ask her out again? Or just forget about it?

[Chris]

I hope the women that post here can enlighten you, cause I still haven't understood the way the female mind works

[Chickenman]

Will any guy obtain such knowledge?

[Mara]

Chickenman said:

Will any guy obtain such knowledge?

Nevah, buwahahahaha!



Okay...and I'm not exactly an expert... but I guess I would just ask her casually...to hang out.... for first. If it works and she has a good time, you could go for something more official.
I dunno, if she she knew there were no strings attached, she might be more likely to go with it, versus something more ..concrete.

*shrug*

[jaxie]

ask her if she likes video games or something like that. if she says yes....casually ask her if she would like to play (or whatever) with you sometime.

keeps it casual and friendly....but also opens the door.

[Enigma]

Mara said:

Nevah, buwahahahaha!



Okay...and I'm not exactly an expert... but I guess I would just ask her casually...to hang out.... for first. If it works and she has a good time, you could go for something more official.
I dunno, if she she knew there were no strings attached, she might be more likely to go with it, versus something more ..concrete.

*shrug*

Amen to that, sister! *high fives* I agree with Mara. If you want to ask her out, make it casual and then the next time you want to spend time with her...be a little bit more direct about your intentions.

[EdhelwenEmileia]

Hmm... Well, I dunno about anyone else, but I want intentions clear from the beginning. If they're not, then it turns out the intentions weren't what I thought they were, then it would feel like I was tricked, and I would hate that.

[Chickenman]

Well, as of today, I've officially given up on her. It doesn't even seem like she likes me on a friendly level anymore. She's ignored me a couple times. She never talks to me unless I start the conversation, so she has to reply or something. It's like she wants nothing to do with me, so...meh.

[Mara]

Awwwwww.....

Well, I suppose it's good. You can move on now.